Lessons Learnt

Life teaches us many things which books don't. Here are certain things I have learned, which I plan to share.

• First of all, every problem has a solution.
• You need to think about the solution of a problem keeping yourself independent of it. This way you come up with solutions easily.
  
• All things you wish for come to you only when they are destined to. Yes, I believe in destiny and divine intervention. So, no matter how hard you try to get to your goals, you will achieve them only when the right time comes.
  
• Remember, when you have a row with a person, think about the good things and good qualities of that person. I am sure, good qualities will always outnumber the bad ones if you try. Doing so will lessen your anger quickly.

Ringtones

Why do we choose to play a particular ringtone? Is it because of the following reasons?

We like it and we drown are thoughts in the b’ful music.

To show off that I have the latest ringtone in my cell.

To attract attention, at least this is how I will get noticed!

To show what’s playing on my mind.

To wake people in and nearby cubicles as they are fast asleep.


What ever may be your reason, it's quite irritating when you are on a con call and the person next to you is away and his/her cell phone is buzzing away. Phew!

You Know You're Growing Old When...

You know you are growing old when one or more of the following is true. See for yourselves :D

You keep talking to yourself while working or otherwise.

Even while walking to and fro you keep mumbling to yourself.

You have to add reminders and stick post-it notes to remind your to-dos for the day or for the week.

You maintain a checklist and strike off the task that have been accomplished at EOD (personal/professional)

You refer to people who are a year or two younger than you as kids.

You fervently pray and expect that all your plausible and implausible wishes come true, becoz you’re running short of time.

You decide to stay hungry than to irate your tummy with spicy food

You wear a grumpy expression on New Year’s Eve, since you know the next working day is going to be as hectic as any other day. Why pretend to be happy?

Saving Spree

How would you curb your expenses and save yourself from a financial pitfall?
Pretend to forget your Debit/Credit card at home.
Carry minimum amount of cash in your purse/wallet.
Minimize eating outside.
Make a budget for every month and stick to it no matter what.
Set savings goals on a weekly basis.Eliminate excessive coffee drinks/or cut down on unhealthy beverages.
Quit smoking and boozing.
Cut down on apparel/footwear/jewelry shopping (need not run to a mall every time there’s a sale).
Cut down on buying expensive books. Instead take a lifetime membership in a library.
Set an alarm and let it buzz every 15mins when you are out for shopping.
Who cares, I need not cut down on my expenses! After all “Money alone sets the entire world in motion.”


The options in this poll indicate things I haven't been able to follow yet.

Soul mate- Myth or Reality

Have you ever wondered whether the soul mate you are looking for really exists or it is just a figment of your imagination?

Well, even I don’t have the answer to this question.

People yearn to meet the one all through their lives. Some do meet the one and some don’t.

Wiki defines a “soul mate is a term used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and compatibility.”

For ages we have been hearing about soul mate and how we wish to meet the one. But did we ever ponder upon why the word soul mate is so called?

According to a Greek philosopher, Plato, humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces. However, Zeus (Greek God of thunder and sky) feared their power and split them into halves, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them. (Source reference: Wikipedia)From then on people have been searching for their soul mate.

What is my take on this subject? Well, I used to believe this too. But by and by my notion about this whole soul mate thing changed. No, don’t get me wrong, am not discounting the concept. It is just that at present people get to interact with so many people that even if their soul mate would be right under their nose they wouldn’t be able to recognize him/her.

This reminds me of this movie Dil Toh Pagal Hai, where Madhuri was a staunch supporter of this whole soul mate thingy. And she did find hers in King Khan in the movie. In the same way this movie Serendipity (one of my favourites) is based on the same concept. Nevertheless, how many of us can claim that the person we share are life with or are intending to share are life with is our true soul mate. I bet we can’t!

We expect that there is one person who will love us just the way we are. This person would complete our life with qualities that are missing in us. Instead of looking for Mr or Miss Right why can’t we just find the happiness within ourselves? Why build false hopes that the next person will add meaning to our life. Why can’t we make it meaningful and worthwhile ourselves?

Deep down I feel that because of this over-hyped concept of soul mate we build are expectations way too high. We expect so much from our other or better half that this over-expectation leads us to misery, hopelessness, unhappiness, and discontent. People fall in love and when their expectations are not met they fall for someone else, assuming that may be he or she wasn’t my soul mate after all! And then this never ending hunt for Mr or Miss Right continues. Why can’t we become soul mate of our partners, working through the challenges of our lives, rather than looking for a soul mate? We can build mutual trust, love, and respect for our better halves and make a relationship perfect rather than looking for a perfect person to set our lives right.



P.S: A couple of days ago, I read somewhere that human being is polygamous by nature. Wonder if this is true, how many soul mates do we have to look for?

Yet to be named...

Where do I look for you, my beloved?

Don’t you know that my heart aches in your absence?

There are moments that I would like to overlook and

There are moments I would like to reclaim

I try hard to wipe you away

But you keep coming back;

in the waves of the ocean,

in the chirping of birds,

in the rustle of leaves,

in the sweetness of honey,

in the radiance of the sun,

in the soft glow of the moon,

in the dew drops on a leaf,

in the melody of a song,

in the silent prayer that each day I offer to Lord;

to spot the promise of return in your eyes, to fill the empty space and heal my aching heart

Silent Love

The love I have been dreaming of is so close to me,

but all I can do is just watch you without words.

In this city of strangers, I lived day by day painting love!

Waiting and hoping against hope that you will be here;

to fill my incomplete life with your presence.

I know not, is it you, God, or Fate that chose to keep us apart, name it what you may;

but may be we are not meant to be together.

I never wanted to let this love fly by; but my days are numbered;

and it’s too late now... forget me not;

coz wherever you tread, I will be watching over you, silently, with a heart full of LOVE!